Are you a Father figure? or just a male figure in your home?

Father's day Message I preached at Iglesia Bautista in Boston


Are you a father figure? or just a male figure in your home?

Someone wrote these humorous words entitled, 'The World accrding to Dad.
These are some words that most dds have said at some time or another to their children

* This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.
* How should I know? Ask your mother
* I'm not made out of money!
* When I was your age I walked 5 miles to and from school each day and it was uphill both ways
* If you break your leg don't come running to me.
* I was not asleep. I was just resting my eyes



What does it mean for you to be a father ?

Read Eph 6 1-4
1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2"Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."[a] 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children;(do not make your children angry) instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

As a father you have to teacch your children, if you dont teach them godly concepts how will they live? How will they survive? or even behave?
Proverbs 22:15 (New King James Version)
15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of correction will drive it far from him.



There were many great father figures in the bible but I'd like to focus on one who was not ashamed to seek Jesus no matter what his position was

One who was a leader of a synagogue

One who the had the courage to do what it took to get his daughter help, it is a hard thing for a father to see his child suffer in sickness.



Lets look into Mark 5:21-24

21When Jesus had again crossed over by boat to the other side of the lake, a large crowd gathered around him while he was by the lake. 22Then one of the synagogue rulers, named Jairus, came there. Seeing Jesus, he fell at his feet 23and pleaded earnestly with him, "My little daughter is dying. Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live." 24So Jesus went with him.



Mark 5:35-43

35While Jesus was still speaking, some men came from the house of Jairus, the synagogue ruler. "Your daughter is dead," they said. "Why bother the teacher any more?"

36Ignoring what they said, Jesus told the synagogue ruler, "Don't be afraid; just believe."

37He did not let anyone follow him except Peter, James and John the brother of James. 38When they came to the home of the synagogue ruler, Jesus saw a commotion, with people crying and wailing loudly. 39He went in and said to them, "Why all this commotion and wailing? The child is not dead but asleep." 40But they laughed at him.
After he put them all out, he took the child's father and mother and the disciples who were with him, and went in where the child was. 41He took her by the hand and said to her, "Talitha koum!" (which means, "Little girl, I say to you, get up!" ). 42Immediately the girl stood up and walked around (she was twelve years old). At this they were completely astonished. 43He gave strict orders not to let anyone know about this, and told them to give her something to eat.



We need more fathers to be like Jairus

* Someone who is not ashamed of the Gospel of Christ

* Someone who is attentive thier children's need

* Someone who wants the best for their children

* Someone who is willing to bring Jesus into thier homes so that thier children could recieve healing and could see and learn who Jesus is



Many Fathers give up that role of being a father, they lack discipline with thier kids, they do instruct thier children about God. They simply abandoned thier kids by:

*Not showing or giving thier kids love

* Not giving them attention

* Running towards alcohol, drugs or other women

*Becoming violent



A study was made on dads when the dads go deadbeat

Recent reports tell us

Because of a lack of father figurs in the home there have been

* increase in violent crime

* increase in illegitimate births

* increase in teen pregnancies

* increase in teen suicide

a big percentage of all juveniles in state reform insttitutions come from fatherless homes



The home doesn't need a man in the house, it needs a Father!

In Exodus it speaks about how the blood of the lamb needed to be put on the door posts in order for the angel of death not to kill the firstborn.

Well it was the father who was to take the lamb, it was the father who had to apply the blood

The safety of the family depended on the father- if he placed the blood upon the door, the family would be spared from death and tragedy

If he failed his duty the angel of death would kill his firstborn


My Testimony about my dad


My father was not a bad dad but he was disconnected from God. He was a sought -out musician who everyone wanted in thier band. So that meant wee hours of the morning coming home with the buzz of his life because of the alcohol. At times he had no money cuz he would spend it on drinks at the clubs with his bandmates and friends.

His brain was being fried with marijuana. I do praise God because he was not violent but he became very lazy and mommy at one point was mom and dad.

His music was more important that he was not able to be at the hospital when I was born. Sad right?

That is why I wrote this prayer to my Heavenly Father. (read prayer in the journal)Boy I waited for years but then a miracle occured.

My dad was invited to a Richie Ray and bobby Cruz concert and dad had seen some of his old bandmates and buddies transformed by the Lord. They were now saved.

I went with him to the concert and when the altar call was made, my dad gave his heart to the Lord at his seat. I was so excited that the little prayer would come to pass.



Now dad goes to church almost every sunday, he left the weed years ago and when he plays he comes straight home and he provides for his family and is there for us.

Though his walk with the Lord is not perfect but he did a 180 and is still trying. He prays more and he talks to others about God.

God has more molding to do on him and all of us for that matter.



I love our Heavenly Father because even though our earthly ones may not be the greatest example, He is always there, He will never leave us. He is always attentive to our needs whether it be physical, emotional, or financial. If we make a mistake he will always bring us back to his arms and love us unconditionally.

His Blood saves us, heals us and rescues us.